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  • Body positivity
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Crosswordsnotwires is now opening its doors to guest bloggers!

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Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas – For YOU!

We’ve all seen how Christmas is ‘supposed’ to go on TV.

The family, the films, the presents, the food, the carols, the eggnog. Yup. That perfect Hallmark card Christmas is an image many of us have grown up with and even tried to live up to.

And for those of us who can have that and have it not cause financial troubles or mental instability, that’s great – do you. But not everyone has or wants a Christmas like that.

It’s no surprise to anyone that Christmas is a time where mental health is the most vulnerable. There’s so much pressure from every direction and anyone who disapproves this festive cheer is instantly labelled a grinch.

But in reality, Christmas Day is just another day, and just like any other day it’s up to YOU how you spend it. Whether it’s around family, friends, or by yourself – there’s nothing wrong with doing whatever you want to do instead of what every other person wants you to do.

Don’t drown yourself in guilt or debt or damaging situations for the sake of a day.

If you want a small Christmas, that’s fine. If you want to spend it with friends, that’s fine too. If you’d rather be alone, that’s also fine. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to work or treat it like just a normal day.

This Christmas, you deserve to be happy and safe. So, spend it however you like.

P.S. If you need help, please reach out. If you know someone who’s vulnerable this holiday season, please check in on them.

How Bankruptcy and Breakdowns Make For The Best Christmas Ever

Are you getting ready for the holidays?

I’ve been accused of being a grinch in the past, and maybe I was but for good reason… (click below for hilarious baby photos)

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New Year, Fuck You

Recovering from Christmas is hard.

Christmas can be such a draining time for anyone, let alone people like us. Social demands, financial stress, festive pressure to be cheery, family drama, food and alcohol everywhere – sure, it can be a fabulous time of year but there are pitfalls around every corner.

And what makes it even more draining? New Year is next up, followed by the rest of January. The month of new year new me, when social media is littered with healthy eating, workouts and decluttered lives. Everyone’s hell bent on self improvement for 31 days and sometimes it feels like crap.

You tell yourself you’ll ignore it. You won’t let it get to you. You’re working on yourself and you’re here to see another year so you won’t let it get to you that the girl you hate from school but for some reason have on Facebook is engaged, expecting and about to buy a house, or that the person you kind of like is out on a date with that person that must be better than you in every way, or that your cousin is still loving their dream job or that everyone in the world is hashtag blessed and making you feel like shit for still feeling like shit.

But you know what? Fuck it! You are still here, surviving, fighting, healing, recovering. Your life has so many chapters left, so many years to surprise and delight you. January is just another month like any other and you kicked ass in the last 12. This month is no different.

It’s ok if it takes you a while to heal from Christmas. It’s ok if your January isn’t filled with self promises and positivity. It’s ok to still feel down and negative. It’s ok to have bad days, bed days, lazy days and head days. It’s ok that Christmas is something you need to heal from, even if you had a good time.

So breathe. Hug your cat. Take your meds. Have a bath. Call your friend. Watch TV. Just – do you. You don’t need to review last year right now or make plans for the new one. Just know it will be as strong, resilient and ever changing as you.

Merry Christmas

This is my sign off post for the year, in which I want to thank you all for a wonderful 6 months since I started this blog.

Christmas is a funny time of year, whatever you believe or celebrate. Mental health is often forgotten, or people expect you to forget yours in favour of bright lights, wrapping paper and jolly noise. For some of us that’s easier said than done. For some of us, Christmas time piles on that extra stress of hiding what’s really going on in our heads. For some of us we feel guilt, shame, loneliness…

You are still you tomorrow, and whether you are surrounded by many or a chosen few – you deserve real smiles, not fake ones, and a shoulder to lean on if you need it, regardless of what day it is.

I hope you all have the Christmas you deserve. Stay safe. And if you need a friend, my instagram DM box is open all year round 💙