5 Ways To Remember Your Mum This Mother’s Day

If you’ve lost your mum, Mother’s Day can be a difficult time. The adverts are everywhere, and shops are all filled with cards and presents about how important mums are. No matter how your mum passed or how long it’s been since, it always stings just that little bit more around Mother’s Day.

It’s been over seven years since I lost my mum, so I’ve gotten through quite a few Mother’s Days, and every year I’m still unsure of how the day will affect me. If you’re still struggling with this day you can read last year’s blog: Surviving Smothers Day, or you can continue below as I list five ways you can remember your mum on this day.

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Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas – For YOU!

We’ve all seen how Christmas is ‘supposed’ to go on TV.

The family, the films, the presents, the food, the carols, the eggnog. Yup. That perfect Hallmark card Christmas is an image many of us have grown up with and even tried to live up to.

And for those of us who can have that and have it not cause financial troubles or mental instability, that’s great – do you. But not everyone has or wants a Christmas like that.

It’s no surprise to anyone that Christmas is a time where mental health is the most vulnerable. There’s so much pressure from every direction and anyone who disapproves this festive cheer is instantly labelled a grinch.

But in reality, Christmas Day is just another day, and just like any other day it’s up to YOU how you spend it. Whether it’s around family, friends, or by yourself – there’s nothing wrong with doing whatever you want to do instead of what every other person wants you to do.

Don’t drown yourself in guilt or debt or damaging situations for the sake of a day.

If you want a small Christmas, that’s fine. If you want to spend it with friends, that’s fine too. If you’d rather be alone, that’s also fine. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to work or treat it like just a normal day.

This Christmas, you deserve to be happy and safe. So, spend it however you like.

P.S. If you need help, please reach out. If you know someone who’s vulnerable this holiday season, please check in on them.

Is A Bath More Than Just A ‘Self Love’ Trend?

Alright, I’ll admit it. I love scrolling through various bath hashtags looking at gorgeous aesthetics, brightly coloured water and arrays of candles. And, yes, I dream of the perfect roll top bath that looks over a beautiful landscape. And okay I MIGHT have started an instagram club for showcasing some of my favourite bath time photos – but it’s more than a trend, I promise!

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You’re not worried about your fat friend’s health, you just don’t want them to feel empowered

Let’s face it. We’ve all done it, even if it’s just once. We’ve looked at someone and thought “At least I’m not THAT big.”

Well, hey. *Waves* I’m your big friend and I’ve been playing that role for the majority of my life, supplying you with the security that it’s ok you couldn’t fit into your size ten jeans this morning, because at least you’re not as big as me. And that makes you feel better, right? Of course it does.

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